"hey, wanna join a fam?" These are likely familiar words if you've spent a lot of time wondering the public spaces of ps home, groups of people determined to build a gang as large as they can without feeling the need to actually be friends with many or any of their members.
I've noticed many habits which seem common amongst these groups, many habits still seen when the groups claim to be "different from other fams". A common factor of these fams is use of the same text colour among members and wearing the same or similar clothing, seemingly ruining the idea of individuality.The next factor I noticed was group status, titles displaying someones importance in a fam, with general and godfather being 2 of the most commonly used titles.
Now onto behaviour, many of these fams will attempt to "recruit" members (this act being an important factor in determining a members status within the group) while many in their attempts to recruit will ask around and accept any response of "no" many others will refuse to accept this response, using this as an opportunity to harass the user of whom the question was asked, in many cases gathering other members to join in with the harassment. This same behaviour is often emulated whenever a fam member meets a member of another fam.
Now, while I may be against the whole Fam idea as a whole, some of these factors I have mentioned show that the people who start these groups have certain skills that could be put to better use, organisation seems a key component to the supposed success of a fam and some members do seem to possess this skill. A major problem is many seem to lack the social skills to simply have a close group of friends and this leads them to have this idea that starting a fam will help them get some friends when often it will just lead to drama.
The solution? Be on the lookout for someone who may just need a friend, listen to them and don't let them feel that they have to turn to fams to get the friendship they require, you won't just be helping them' you may just make another great friend
Well, I've shared my opinion, and now I'd love to read all of yours